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BDSM or the principles of sado-masochism, the will to dominate or self hurting is functioning on the principle of massive aggression. Most of the times sadism and masochism are combined maintaining the domination of one of the sides.

The masochist is the person that hurts himself or somebody else is hurting them. He lets himself to be whipped, beaten, burned. Sadomasochist meetings are a series of punishments which are usually applied when tying somebody and perform different cruel things to him which raises the level of excitement.

The sexual excitement ended with orgasm is obtained from pain (algofilia) in two ways : sadism or the agonic image of somebody that is suffering pain. In both situations the principle of pleasure is associated in an intimae way with sexual excitement and is followed by an erection or takes its place. The pain starts from a simple tickle (knismolagnia and titillagnia) and may reach the highest levels, mutilation. The person that wishes to be fiscally hurt during the sexual intercourse will be very careful about the way and the quantity that the pain is administered. The intensity of the pain is chosen depending on the desired effect. This way the sexual excitement puts out the anxiety or wakes up feelings in a body that is too stiff. There are many proofs from some specialists which say that the immune system is stimulated when a person witnesses another person suffering. This euphoria is produced from the elimination of endorphin, the same substance is produced during orgasm. In the sadism case the anxiety may be put away only in the moment in which it is transferred to another object or body. The true sadists are not interested if they bring pleasure or pain to their victims, in their sado-masochist games and were there is a consensus, the person that are involved in this game are very preoccupied of reciprocal pleasure, this is the aim of the combined game.

There are two terms which describe forms of sadism that are less aggressive: leptosadism and sapphosadism. For masochists the self inflicted pain produces in brain special substances with the aim of euphoria and exalted feelings.

The humiliation and the aggression which they take will be stepped over and transformed in love and affection which will be percepted on the other hand as a reward.

Some sado-masochists prefer the pain which comes from the stings of needles. The specialists say that fetishism and sado-masochism have common points many times. Sado-masochism incorporates fetishist element through touching or seeing some fetish objects as source of excitement.

Hurting or self hurting is the oldest form of punishment practiced by many masochists to raise the level of excitement. Usually for the pain or wounds to bring pleasure and the desired euphoric feeling it has to be anticipated by the person to which the sexual attraction exists. Hurting the legs is the most common form of punishment and production of pleasure.