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PedroHi Davey, I am 35 years old and a total top. I'm also 5ft 4in tall and not extremely butch so every guy I meet asusmes I'm a bottom and wants to f**k me. When I started watching your video I felt myself getting defensive as this topic hits very close to home for me. You really won a lot of points with me when you mentioned the exceptions of guys who may have experienced some sexual trauma. In my case I experienced an incident of sexual trauma at the age of 20. Prior to that incident I hadn't had much sex and had not bottomed at all. In the years following I became much more sexually active but found that I was not able to bottom. Most of my sexual partners thought I could bottom but was choosing not to. Rarely did anyyone believe me that I couldn't or simply hadn't been able to yet. Honestly, i deidn't know either. Kinda felt like which came first? The chicken or the egg Did I simply hate bottoming or was I not able to because of the sexual trauma. After years of beating myself up and feeling somewhat inferior as a gay man I decided that I would simply embrace the fact that I am a top (no matter what the reason) I in no way think this makes me more of a man or superior. In fact I envy guys who can bottom and even more so guys who are vers. I still feel like I am missing out on huge part of my sexuality. I have read all sorts of stuff and tried different toys. Countless bottom friends have tried to give me advice but after one or two failed attempts I feel defeated and give up. Anyway, not really sure why I'm saying all of this except that I really connected and appreciated your video. I would be interested in hearing any thoughts you might have about my situation. Sincerely,Pedro